How wonderful it can be to watch those sweet and romantic Rom-Coms. You know them – one finds love in an unexpected place, with an unexpected person, they marry and live happily ever after! This is my favorite movie genre and am well acquainted with them.

However, this Hollywood example is not an accurate reflection of a real life marriage.
We marry because we are in love with an individual, but what is infatuation anyway? Infatuation is a feeling. And we know that feelings are deceptive. In the early stages of falling in love, a chemical reaction occurs in your brain, your brain produces phenylethylamine, norepinephrine, adrenaline, endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin, this induces a crush. But what if the production of these substances decreases or stops. Have you ever considered what happens to you and your partner then? What the consequences are for your marriage?

The moment the feeling of being in love wears off, “problems” often arise within the relationship. The first oh-so-perfect partner turns out to have some flaws. You see / discover that your partner also has negative or less attractive characteristics.
You discover that you have less in common than you anticipated. It is often forgotten that a marriage takes time, attention, care and patience, a marriage is an investment.
Nowadays, many marriages are resulting in divorce. Of course, we must also honestly admit that celebrities, among others, normalize that instead of working/fighting for your relationship it is fine to throw in the towel and file for divorce.
People no longer seem willing to press through and resolve the situation when the situation becomes difficult or uncomfortable.